Soreness

I am so sore from moving on Saturday. I was able to borrow the bishops truck and pick up a couch that a friend let me have along with a vacuum and a blender. I got keys to the new place Friday evening and then Saturday morning, about 7 guys from the ward came over to help move the piano a chair and all of my stuff from Nathan. It took a whole, 30 minutes, maybe of every ones time.

Nathan was cold and mean and unrecognizable. He ignored "hellos'" from those who said Hello to him because I watched it happen, he completely ignored me like I wasn't alive or even there. It was the weirdest thing. Yes, I did cry at multiple points during the day because I don't know what has gotten in to him and nor will I ever understand or know. I tried to call him about a few items and he ignored my call and when he did call he was rude. I don't know him anymore and wow, it didn't even take a few weeks.

I remember him telling me that as he was preparing to move to Douglas that he doesn't need his family anymore and that he was glad to get out of the valley because his family is to much drama and he didn't like seeing the changes in his brothers. Well, boys, it is equally the same with him because he has completely changed. Nathan is not the same Nathan that you thought you knew. So, family members have issues, you don't have to live next to them or ask about them or accept the issues, accept the person as is, they aren't going to change to match your specific expectations.

I'm going to visit with an attorney tomorrow morning so we'll see what happens.

I was able to spend Saturday night with my brother David, he was here kind of by accident so it was nice to have dinner with him and try to get him ready and settled and out by 6 am this morning. We got caught in a little bit of the monsoon that hit. I saw the trees swaying and told David that we should get out of the swimming pool because of the wind and then all of a sudden, I could smell the rain so as we were leaving, the rain started to hit and wow, David got tons of dirt in his mouth for having it open in AZ, outside while running for cover to the house. That'll teach ya =D.

It was nice to get the low down on what he wants to do and what he likes or doesn't like. It makes sense to alot and brings light to tons of "family gossip". If I want the low down on someone specific, I just go straight to the horses mouth, it is full of truth and correct information.

I'll be staying with Toni through the end of the month and unpacking everything every day. I pretty much got the kitchen finished yesterday so I just have to organize things in other rooms. I was given a TV center which I don't want so that is up for grabs. I don't need it because I only have 1 TV so somehow I need to get rid of it. It'll go on craigstlist for $25 or FREE. There is a lot that I'm giving to the DI too because I just don't have use for it. Nathan kept my lamps so I need to replace those so I'll check out the DI within the next couple of weeks too. It'll be a great swap of stuff =D.

I was given a desk too which will be wonderful because I have made the decision to go back to school for a second Masters Degree. I'm going to do Masters of Education/Adult Education Training. I'm so excited and will probably start mid November. I don't want to start any earlier because I want to get settled and moved, go to General Conference and fly to Hawaii the end of October first part of November for the Laie Hawaii temple open house and my grandmas birthday. My parents are going to go at the same time. It makes sense to make it a family trip...it'll be fun. I can't wait.

I just met a lady who house sits dogs. Yahoo. I think that she is either in my ward or in my stake. I'm not sure, I might have to use her for when I go to GC. I'll have to wait and see what happens.

The room that I'm staying in is half gone and cleaner. I felt soooo bad that it was so squishy in here. I was able to clean it yesterday and also vacuum the living room. I'm going to help clean the carpets this next week too because Kale had an accident in the house while I was in Hawaii so I'm going to help clean the floor this week. I felt terrible that he did that because it isn't like him to do that at all. One accident won't kill anyone though, its all good. I'm going to leave him today over at the new place while I go to church, so I hope its all good there too. He did fine Saturday night while David and I went swimming.

More later, I need to get ready for church and take Kale to the new place. I'll do some moving of around things while I'm there too.

Love,

Karen

PS, oh yeah, the pictures will soon be here from Hawaii. I just haven't had the time to do them yet.

Home again

Wow, what a week it has been. I have pictures on my camera and then pictures on the disk in the camera and hehehehehe, can't figure out how to get them on the computer, but once I do, I'll post them.

I spent the last 9 days in Hawaii with family, friends and mission presidents and family. It was beautiful there. It rained in the evening (while I slept) and then it was HOT during the day. It was wonderful to spend time with Tiffany and to just hang out with her and play.

We hung out with family when we could and if they were home and if could take the stinkin' bus over there from Pearl Harbor or even as close as PCC. We had dinner with my mission president, Les and Nannette Steward and it was wonderful. He was so in tune with the spirit that he offered to give a blessing and said some wonderful things.

I am so grateful to have gone there at this point in my life because I received some awesome words of wisdom and felt some great heart felt love and support. I was able to cry when I needed to, able to say what needed to be said without being judged and able to laugh and die of laughter because life is just toooo stinkin' funny to not laugh at every situation, get over it quickly and move on.

Grandma looked wonderful and is so funny and everyone is just as awesome as always.

I'll be meeting up with a handful of them again in October in SLC for General Conference and am soooo excited.

Tiffany, I'll be up to see you and now, Marcela, you know that I want to swing by and stay with you too while I'm there. Aunt Kelly, I'll be there too to say Hi and hang out for a couple of hours before I continue on.

Wow, a lot of running around and its great.

If anyone is interested, the Laie Hawaii temple will have its open house in October/November and I want to go back so feel free to join me. Come on mom and dad, dad is going to check on the dates so if it works out, it'll be awesome to join you at that time.

I have to say that I was and still am proud of myself for hitting the swap meet twice and walking out with NOTHING. I know, can you believe it? I'm still shocked. Tiffany bought me a house warming gift and its soooo sweet and I bought a plaque to take your shoes off at the front door. I couldn't pass it up, it was awesome and its going to go on the door!

Thanks Aunty Emily for the dress. I'll wear it even though its to big, someone will be able to help me fix it and take it in.

Let me see what I can do for the pictures. I took a lot and named them all so I have to somehow get them. I even have great pictures of the fruit trees on the farm that I took. I'll figure it out shortly.

Post something soon.

Karen

PS, Oh get this, I am moving on Friday and Saturday and people from this new stake that I'm in in Chandler and people that I work with are giving me a couch, a bookcase, a TV, a TV stand and all kinds of things and are soooo willing to help me move and get the heavy stuff in the house. I'll take pictures of that also when I get all settled in.

Off to see paradise

I'm leaving in an hour for Hawaii to spend a fabulous time with my grandma, aunties, uncles and million cousins with my good friend Tiffany. I'm packed and ready to go.

I'll be back on the 17th, pending nothing crazy happens where God sees fit that I stay there, which I seriously doubt.

I went to church this morning and felt the spirit of service and that Christ is the perfect example of that by cleaning the feet of his disciples, feeding the 5000+, and offering his life for me. Would I clean the feet of those who I come in contact with? Would I have the funds and food and time to make a meal for someone in need? Would I be willing to give up my life for someone who Heavenly Father asked me to do it for? These are questions that we need to ask ourselves.

I'll take tons of pictures and will post them when I return. I'll be moving the end of the month too so we'll see if I can get it done by then and remember all of them too.

Aloha,


Karen

New Place

I found a new place to live with the mercy and great love of a loving Heavenly Father. He has helped me through prayer to find a place that is in Chandler, AZ down the street from my friend Toni and in the Pleasant 2nd ward. I am sooooo excited. The ward is excited and I can't wait.

I'll take pictures or send them later. I have a few already from the realtor who is in my ward who helped me find it. I wanted to get in to the townhouse location and had driven by it a few times but couldn't see what was in there and couldn't see if there were rentals or just sales.

Russ Deihl has helped me and his family will be blessed because of his efforts.

I bought some furniture but had to go back and refund the $$ because I was a few hundred short of turning all the money in to pay for the place. I'll go back at the end of the month or the first part of September and do it again. Hopefully getting a better deal.

3 days and counting and I'll be on an airplane to paradise. I'm excited. I can't wait. Tiffany and I have talked almost every day trying to get things settled.

I'll add more later...Aloha,

Karen

Welcome to Chandler

I've been in Chandler since the first part of July and believe it or not, I kind of like it. Everything is soooo close and if it wasn't so HOT I'd actually walk to a lot of places. I'm looking for a place to live right here in Chandler because the ward wants me to stay and so does the Lord so I'm going to stay put. I have made a few friends so far here and the members of the ward are wonderful. They are rich, professional people. One sister is a retired school nurse after 17 yrs and she at one point owned her own floral shop. I want to become her new best friend since I love to work with flowers...she can show and help me a lot.

The RS president is awesome. She has called me and talked to me about my back, the cancer center, the trial that I'm currently going through and so forth. She has had her share of trials too. She told me that she lost her first husband and her children in a tragic airplane crash. What? Wow, seriously. I didn't know what to say. I couldn't believe it and the the best thing ever, she said, I'll see them again, I'm totally fine with it. What a wonderful sister.

I have Roxie here at Toni's with me. She doesn't care to much for the yellow lab. He is big and she is a little timid so she tends to sit on me, sleep with me and go with Kale and I walking every time we go outside. I try to take her everywhere so that she doesn't have to be alone or "bullied" by the "bigger" dog. Toni and her family love her though. Roxie is just Roxie and just sweet. Kale will hang out with her and they're good pals.

I am almost finished with my class. I have 4 days left. I have a 1050 word paper to write and a final exam. I'm scared to death to begin the exam. Just now, thinking about it, it makes my stomach turn. I don't do well with automated, timed and multiple choice tests. I fail them all of the time.

I want to go see a movie next week but can't think of which one to see. I'll have to make up my mind though quickly because the following week, I'll be in HI. Yeah!!

Tiffany called this week to tell me that she is totally excited. We can't wait. We're going to have soooo much fun.

I need to get some sleep. I'm running on about 8 hrs of sleep in 3 days. I can tell that it is killing me.

Be happy, the Lord loves you and me. Because of the atonement and because of the Savior we are all going to go through trials and great joys in this life. I know that he lives. I know that blessings come from living the gospel and following the counsel of the prophets.

Love,
Me

OK, the tragedy

Yes. Nathan said that he doesn't want to be married anymore. Yes, he said it Tuesday night. Yes, ALL the signs were there and YES, I'll add anything to my blog that I want to add.
There were signs for the past year and Karen chose to ignore them. He says that he didn't know until Sunday night

Yes, he said that he went to the temple and it was confirmed to do it after he talked to my mom. Yes, he said that we should part ways. Yes, I am changing my name back to Nihipali because it is cooler. Yes, I am shocked but then again, not really because like I said, all the signs were there and he said that he didn't have a clue until Sunday.

Example:
"I want to go to Harvard", says Nathan.

"That is great", says Karen. "What am I supposed to do while you go to Harvard?" she adds.

"I don't know, you can come if you want to".

Another example:

"When I finish my degree and get a real job and can support myself, I don't need to be married anymore". Seriously, true statement. He said that in the Fall 2009 when he finished his program of study.

And he didn't have a clue? I beg to differ. What do you think about all day long?
Yes, it sucks and it is going to be a lengthy divorce because the Wickes take their sweet time in getting things done. They are not quick and ALWAYS late.

Yes, I am in AZ and will be living in Chandler with my puppy. Yes, my family knows. He said that he wants a wife that is close to her mother, or someone that he can feel the spirit closer with, whatever that means.

Yes, he said that he can't feel the spirit when he is around me, whatever that means. You can't feel the spirit with your spouse if you are not doing celestial things. So, duh, its not a wonder.

Yes, we stopped reading scriptures, saying family prayer (even though he says we did, but I beg to differ and that they were in vain) and going to the temple together. I can't remember the last time we did. When the prophet says to study and ponder the scriptures together as a couple, he isn't saying to just read them and then part your ways. He is saying to talk about them and share your testimony with one another about them. We've NEVER done that and it sucks.

Sucks, doesn't it? Yes, it does.

Am I bitter? No. We all have our own choices. After stating the reality of it all, he might read this and think that I am bitter and think that I am being negative, but you know, someone has to be real.

Thanks for all of your prayers, your support and your honesty. I don't like any tinkering around with stuff. Fluff is not what it is about and I feel like this relationship was fluff and I do apologize to everyeone for making it seem that it was better than it really was, for obvious reasons.

Karen Nihipali

Forever already

Nathan on the Dallas Cowboy Star, Cowboy Stadium, Dallas, TX
Karen on the Dallas Cowboy Star, Cowboy Stadium, Dallas, TX

OK, I know that it has been since January 2010 since I posted anything. Can you believe that half of 2010 is over and that Christmas is around the corner?

I am in shock and just whipping through this year. What has happened since January, my gosh.

February 2010, started the new G-HRM Certificate and will finish 08/02 (which is just 3 weeks away) and took Cherry to Nogales, Mexico where she could say that she has been. We didn't even have a chance to go to Rocky Point while she was here. Sad days, oh well.

March 2010, took Cherry and Collette to the beautiful Grand Canyon and it was soooo stinkin' cold.

April 2010, General Conference which was wonderful. I hurt my back in April and it has been absolutely terrible since. I have spent more money at the Dr office and have been there more often in the past 3 months then I ever have been in probably 10 years. Nathan and I went to see the BYU Dancers at Gilbert High School. It was awesome. It was a variety of music and dance for the past 40 years. It was great.

May 2010, We took Cherry down to the Gila Valley Temple Open House where she could feel the spirit and know what "Mormons" believe. She thought that it was soooo beautiful and awesome. School ended. I had 2 garage sales back to back and boy, was it tiring.

June 2010, I had two steroid injections put in my back to help eliminate the pain and minimize the inflamation. I have another one in a couple of weeks too because it seems like the first two really didn't do much. I had the opportunity to go to Dallas, TX for Leadership Summit for work which was by invitation only and it was fabulous. I learned a lot about myself, about management and the university as a whole. I work for a great organization. There are a few pictures below that Nathan and I took while we were there and while we had some free time.

July 2010, well, it is official. Nathan is down in Douglas, AZ and I am staying with a sweet friend, Toni, her sister PJ and the daughter Ashley who is 3 until the end of the summer. I have Kale with me too and we are in Chandler. South of the 202 and right off of Alma School. He starts work on the 19th with Omega Alpha Charter School and is already setting up house and getting to know the area and the way that people live down there. He has gone to Agua Prieta, which is on the other side of the border, he has been pulled over by border patrol and he has even had the opportunity to go to the emergency room already for falling off the truck he drove down there. So, needless to say he has had his fun already and is enjoying it. The members are fabulous and are there assisting him which is an answer to my prayers.

Nathan and I had a body detox and it was so cool to see what happens in water from what shouldn't be in there. It was pretty neat.

I have a few doctors appointments that I need the insurance for from work and I need to find a job that will be suitable for me. I am hoping to work from home and won't know if it will work out until mid August.

I have booked my flight and found a place to stay for Hawaii for 9 days. My awesome friend Tiffany will be flying too from SLC and we'll meet up down there. We are staying at a hostel which are so much fun and cheap. Pictures will be posted for sure on FB and if I can remember, probably here too.

Well, technically this is about it.

Love ya all,

Karen & Nathan